Somewhere along the road, I’ve come to realize that girls dress up not to impress the boys, but to impress other girls. I’ve always been a tomboy and I’ve had a lot of guy friends too, whom I hang out with a lot. I remember mom gave up trying to put me in a skirt. The only skirt I wore was the school uniform. There was also one time mom grounded me until I learned to tie my own ponytail. I spent days to get it right. Sometimes I doll up before meeting my guy friends, and they’ll have no idea anyway the effort I take to make myself this presentable, so why bother? Here’s a brief history of my vanity.
My grandma loved to see me pretty, so she made me grow my hair until it reached my waist, even though I didn’t like it. For a 6-year-old who couldn’t even bother with afternoon showers, that long hair was a chore. My aunt was the only one who dared to cut my hair. She gave the long piece of hair to grandma for keepsakes. I stayed with a short, pixie cut until junior high. Then I had my heart broken for the first time.
My shallow brain thought that if I became pretty, he’d regret what he did and maybe come back to me. So I grew my hair. And he did not come back to me hahahaha I eventually had another boyfriend, and when he broke my heart too, I powered up my vanity a notch. I made friends with makeups. My first makeups were a palette of eyeshadows, a blush-on, and a face powder. Mom handed me down her unused lipstick and lip gloss when she saw I was still using lip tints. At this point, I was still very much a tomboy, but with long hair. The makeups ended up untouched.
Then I had another broken heart and the girl in me had a revolution: I started to wear skirts and heels. Not much, but I became familiar with the two things that symbolized femininity. That was life changing. I started to know that you could do more in a hair salon other than just cutting your hair. I took regular facials, I had hair creambath, and the most important thing: waxing. By then, I even tried a doctor’s prescription for my face to fix my dry zits problem. But I was still not a believer of beauty products. Not only because they’re expensive, I didn’t have time for them either.
I’m back to short hair now and I’ve learned to love dresses more and more. In fact, I want to fill my wardrobe with a whole bunch of flowery dresses. I’ve been mingling with the right girls and now I’m so attached to my makeup kit. Can you believe that I’ve been collecting lipsticks? And now I’m collecting brushes too.
However, putting a dress and make up on is easy. They can take as quick as ten minutes and you’re ready to go. It’s the regular treatment that is difficult to keep up with. Because being beautiful goes beyond what you wear and what colors you put on your face. And I’m still a tomboy at heart. I’m lazy. Often I look at high-maintenance girls and wonder when the hell they have the time to groom themselves. I keep my hair short because I don’t want to spend a long time to wash and blow my hair, you know. But like all girls, I want to look pretty and the only way to get that pretty look is by putting some effort. I have the time and money now for this. Let me share you my grooming routine for the lazy.
Since I sport a pixie cut, I have to trim my hair every month. Thankfully, it usually doesn’t take long, less than an hour. But I’ve dyed my hair too now, so I have to give it an extra care. I no longer do regular hair creambath. I just got myself a bottle of hair mask and will start using it once a week. We’ll see the result. I still don’t know when to touch up my roots. Probably every three months. And since I have a dry hair, I only wash it every two days. And when it’s dry, I put leave on conditioner on it to tame it for the whole day.
I wash my face and brush my teeth every day. It’s a must. No exception. Then I put on some facial lotion and cream every night. I wanna start having proper facial again now, so maybe once a month. I mostly use makeup every day, so I make sure to cleanse it every night with proper makeup removal before washing it again with the face wash. The lip balm is also always in my purse, because I have chapped, dry lips, so using it is a must.
I just got into body scrubs now and I tried it yesterday. Omg I’m in love with the immediate result I felt on my skin, I think I’m gonna replace my shower gel with it. It’s amazing. I wanna have proper body scrubs too once a month, making sure my skin look healthy *__* I always put body lotion every day, because I have a really dry skin. And of course, my favorite, my eau de cologne. I think a girl is at her prettiest when she smells good, so my cologne and I are pretty inseparable. After that, the most important thing: waxing. People’s opinions differ on body hair, but I’d like to keep mine clean. I’m generally hairless, so my waxing routine only involves the underarms, half legs, and bikini. I want to try zap/laser, but it’s so expensive. :/ Anyway, some tips about bikini waxing. I know many girls are afraid to do it, and I admit that waxing hurts a bit at the beginning. But you’ll get used to it, besides waxing is quicker, cleaner, and lasts longer than shaving. You don’t have to wax it bald down there, just make sure it’s clean, cos it will make things much easier during periods.
And that’s pretty much everything about my grooming. Totally low maintenance hahaha and all the products I use can be easily bought in the drug stores and they’re affordable. When I was a teenager, doing this would feel like a burden, but now I like it. I need to do it, cos I like it when I feel fresh and smell good. I conclude that no pricey treatments is necessary as long as you shower properly and feed your body with healthy stuff.
Above all this, I believe that the ultimate beauty treatment is simple:
- good sleep. Make sure you have a quality sleep for at least 6 hours each night;
- regular exercise. I know a lot of girls exercise to lose weight, but please remember that it’s also good for your heart, endurance, mood, and hormones. It’s not just about the ideal look, but also the ideal health; and last but not least
- food management. I’m not really fond of the word ‘diet’, due to its’ negative connotation recently. By managing your food, not only you can maintain an ideal weight, but also actually putting good stuff in your body.
It’s all about the goal and how bad you want to get there. As my mom always says, there’s no ugly girls, only lazy ones. Sometimes I wish I’ve listened to her from the very beginning.